Talking to a girl is simple.
What’s challenging is keeping it interesting. What’s difficult is not getting nervous and keeping it together when you talk to her.
What’s painful is not knowing the right words to say and saying those words exactly as you imagined.
In fact, it is really frustrating when you see the girl you like but don’t know how to talk to her.
Or, just get past the first minute of the conversation.
Oftentimes, it’s the nervousness that’s keeping you from having a free-flowing conversation with a girl. It can make you hesitant, frozen and silent.
Hence, the conversation goes nowhere.
So, it’s best you relax and enjoy yourself. You’ll need to be in that state of mind to really be able to pull off what you’re about to read on this page.
Listen: You’ve only got one chance to make a good first impression. And that’s not likely to happen if you’re breaking down in front of her, scared to death that you might say something that might humiliate you in front of her friends.
Not a good sight.
So, remember to breath and relax to gather your thoughts and show the strength and confidence you have. Fake it if you have to but don’t let any uneasiness flow out to the outside too much.
Be calm on the outside,
even though there’s a
raging storm inside.
Okay. Enough about that.
Here’s what you have to remember if you want to talk to girls and, keep the conversation interesting:
Don’t ask boring questions.
Boring questions lead you nowhere since they can often be answered by one word, or worse, just a nod of her head.
Ask her, “Are you here often?” and the next thing you know, you’re talking to the wall, just like all the other guys who ask her that same question.
So, be mindful of what you ask her. Ask her open-ended, interesting questions. If you’re given the choice of being nice to her or being interesting, be interesting.
And, when she answers your inspiring question, have an answer of your own. Tell her your opinion, a story, especially a funny one, or a follow-up question.
Just make sure it will leave a strong impression on her.
You don’t have to agree with her if you truly don’t. In fact, if you hide your opinion and agree with everything she says, you’re not being interesting.
Guess what you’re being? Boring!
Instead, challenge her and let her know what you really think. Show her that you’re comfortable with yourself, and you’re not ashamed of what you think, whether she agrees with your or not.
You know what?
Sometimes, it’s even good to disagree with her. If you give her enough reason, she’ll try hard to prove herself to you.
That’s when the game changes.
For one thing, it makes the conversation much sweeter when you both agree on something. You’ll have a moment you can enjoy together so why not go deeper and find out how she feels and why it’s important to her.
Because when her feelings are involved, the conversation then becomes more exciting and stimulating.
If you only remember one thing after reading this, make sure it’s this: You attract women by connecting with her emotionally. It’s not the superficial things you have in common with her but the emotional connection you create.
Sure, sharing something in common can help you continue talking to her, at first, but after that, she won’t remember you or even what you talked about if you don’t make a strong impact on her.
And if you want impact…
You have to stir her emotional mind. Find out why she feels the way she does about her interests, family or whatever.
When she tells you, be sure to keep your mouth shut and your ears wide open. Even when there is silence, don’t rush, let her make the effort to continue the conversation.
What’s more, the more you listen, the more ammo you’ll pick up — ammo you’ll use to load up on the next topic you want to discuss with her.
In other words…
you won’t run out of
things to say… ever.
You can keep the conversation going for however long you like and, at the same time, keep it interesting and unpredictable.
Here’s what you can do:
Twist, misinterpret and spin what she says, and you can easily tease her and take the conversation to exciting places.
When you can keep your conversation with a girl interesting, fresh, funny, unpredictable…
it will be magic.
It will even be easier if you have a collection of go-to jokes, games, stories, or one-liners like most guys who are naturally successful with women do.
If you’re interested in learning more conversation tips and techniques, be sure to check this out.